Why are they popping up in my dreams

[Panache87]

Backround info: Firstly, I have 2 ex-boyfriends, since I am very picky about who I go out with. Their names are Matt, who was the dud of a boyfriend, and Juan, who was the sweetest, most romantic boyfriend! (in that order in which I went with them)

Recently, my ex-boyfriends have been popping up in my dreams, and I don't know why.
In the first dream, I was talking to Matt on the phone. When we were about to say our goodbyes, we both said, "goodbye!" a million times. After that, I said, "OK, one of us has got ot hang up!" After saying goodbye once more, I hung up. Mom was sitting on a couch laughing at what I had just done.

The second dream involed Juan. We were both sitting on the couch. At first, Juan and I were just acting like friends. A couple minures later, he asks me if I would like to do the "stuff" (not gonna eloborate! :lol::naughty: that we did during our realationship. I was just sitting there asking him if he was sure he'd like to, and I was just debating with myself whether or not to.

So, why the funny ex-boyfriend dreams?

[koehiir]

Dreams are a great place to work out thoughts and emotions - they are safe and don't cause any reprocussions (unless you want them to). Dwell (or meditate) on these thoughts and it will come to you what are you trying to say to yourself.

God that's deep :eek: time to go watch some cartoons or something, maybe Strong Bad quick.

[monsieurjohn]

how long has it been since you broke up with them? and are you having second thoughts?

generally i don't put too much stock in dream interpretation, i think the brain generates random crazy stuff, but things like this and also stress dreams usually have a solid root in the real world

[Panache87]

MJ>

Let's see..... I broke up with Matt over a year ago, and Juan 6 months ago. I am not having second thoughts

[The Bogeyman]

Have you thought about sending your dreams to a dream interpreter? Maybe they could "decode" these dreams for you.

[Chris]

I think it means you dislike your father and have issues with your childhood. :)

[Alyth]

Well the first one seems a bit easy. Your dream may be saying you are willing to say goodbye completely to that part of your past. But it also might be interpreting you leaving a part of your old habits or charactoristics behind. Partners in dreams often just represent parts of yourself whether it be habits, feelings, or personality/charactoristics of yourself that may or may not have been good. It depends on how you felt when saying goodbye. If you felt good saying goodbye to Matt then the representation he was was obviously something that you are happy to let go of.

As far as the second dream, it sounds like you may not be comletely sure if you are over Juan or that part of yourself and are unsure if you want to let him/it go. These confliction feelings in that dream may be just you sorting out some feelings about yourself on whether or not you are ready to say goodbye to it. It seems as though in your dream you still like what Juan represents and you need more time to sort out those feelings. Don't be surprised if you continue to have that particular dream again because it ended in conflict and a dicission that still needed to be made. As I had mentioned before on a more basic note, you may also not be completely over Juan and are missing the attention from him and the feelings you had while with him.

I hope that helped :winkgrin: :nod:

[Panache87]

Chris>
I may not live with my father, but I do not dislike him. I do see him occasionally. My childhood was actually pretty good.

Alyth>
I have to agree with you on the first dream. It actually relates to how I felt in real life. Matt was not, imo, quite ready for a girlfriend at the time. He also was a SEVERE mama's boy (his mother was nice and all, but she'd have to folllow us EVERYWHERE, and she actually let Matt act like the dork he was, not telling him to knock it off) The sad part is that his FRIEND would call me more that Matt himself!! I spent SO much $$$ on him on night. It was around Christmas, I got him 2 very nice things,and took him to the movies. He NEVER even thanked me! I SOOOOOOOOOOOO wanted to break up with him. When I recieved that "I think we should see other people" email, I was happy as could be. :)
So that's how that dream relates to reality.

[Panache87]

I had another funny ex-boyfriend dream a couple nights ago. This one involved the dud, Matt (would make a fine friend, but bad boyfriend!). I dreampt that I was sitting in a sunny room, and we were talking on the phone, and the weekend was coming. Must've been a friday. (funny! I had that dream on friday night!) We each had a little something for each other, and were planning on getting together. Then he said "We've got each other for two days!", excitedly.
I said, "uuuugh....", while thinking to myself, "WTF! Doesn't he realize that we're NOT going out anymore!?"