I just don't care anymore...

[BigPapaSmurf]

Okay have you ever cared for someone or loved someone so much you just couldn't let them know?

That's my situation. I try to let her go, but no matter what other girl I try to talk to or do anything with all I see is this other girl's face, or I hear her voice. Is it wrong? I wouldn't think so, aside from the fact that me and this girl are best of friends, is that what makes it so hard? The thought that if I were to tell this person how I feel about her that it would make her uncomfortable around me, ruining our friendship. She knows I like her, but she doesn't know exactly how I feel. I would do anything for her to make her happy, if she were mine, my whole world would revolve around her. That's just the way I am, I have never felt this way toward any girl I have ever known or dated, which scares me a little. I know she has been hurt several times before so she is reluctant. She is the type of person who goes around saying "I don't believe in love, it's for the weak. Love is for losers, there's no such thing." I have heard her say things like that but then turn around and act totally opposite.

Anyways, long story short...should I just tell her how I truly feel and let her know whats going down, or should I wait it out to make sure that it's actually possible that we could be together and keep away from the pain?

Let me know people! Thanks

Yeah it sounds like I'm crying, I know...but isnt that what this forum is for?

[Prox]

Hey, and welcome to the soup. I was once in a very simular situation, and It really sucked. But I really think that if you were to tell her how you feel, then you would feel much better about your self. I know that it really opens you up to be hurt, but if you truely feel the way you say you do, then it is almost as painfull to not say anything. I hope that was helpfull. Oh yeah, when I was in this situation, I told her and found out she really liked me too, and we have been togeather for almost 2 years now.

[JHowse]

Yeah...go for being open about it. Best of luck to you. I'd offer more, but I don't have the experiences to really share here, but just be yourself, man.

Welcome to the soup.

[SwissSmiss]

::raises glass:: :beer:

here's to the soup going mopey!!

welcome to the soup. hope things get better. for SOMEONE around here for crissakes.

[Alyth]

Hey and welcome to the soup!

I for one always support being trut to your feelings. It sounds to me you already want to tell her. Maybe try to talk to her one on one and let her know how you feel. Tell her you'll understand if she doesn't feel the same and that you love the relationship as it is now but you also can't ignore how you feel about her. It sounds as though she's been hurt in the past. When someone says they don't believe in love and it doesn't really exsist, that usually means they've either experienced the pain, been hurt themselves, or seen someone close to them get hurt and it scares them. The love is for losers and for the weak part is just a front...sort of a way to push any possible feelings she may have or may not want to have unto her away. It's possible once she is aware of someone's feelings for her she may eventually realise that is't ok to love and or be loved. If someone's carrying love baggage, you have to be careful but don't hold it in. She does deserve to know and you deserve to let it out. Prox is right that holding it in can hurt you more than openning yourself up to be hurt. Imagine how you'd feel if you never said anything to her about your feelings and she had a crush on you too...you'd never know that and you'd only regret it.

Be honest with yourself. It's better to be hurt knowing that you openned your heart and was honest with her, than to never know what could have happened if you did tell her. :D

Good luck!!!

(It's a little late so I tend to ramble, I hope I made sense)