View Full Version : Co-worker trouble, how do I get around it?
I already know I should prob just say, "hey let's talk." I did that another time, and it seemed to work.
She has these fits of anger, where she'll turn around something that I said or did as though my intention was to make her look bad or something- like she's reading into things too much or the wrong way.
Part of me thinks maybe she's stressed or unhappy and she has something against me. Not that I am all so perfect, of course. I know I do a good job , do not gossip, and I try not to share too much personal stuff at work (I made this vow to myself before startingthat job). That's it. She got mad today about something that she misinterpreted that I said; it made me start to feel like I'm the bad guy. She was blowing me off after that. Now I feel like I have to explain myself when I really prob shouldn't have to ....I don't know.
I can explain more in detail what happened if you want b/c I don't know if this makes sense.
mthrlangl
10-25-2001, 03:54 PM
Um..do you know if she's having some kind of personal crisis? Maybe someone in her family's sick or something else is happening, and she's taking it out at work. Also, is it only *you* that she flips out on? If not, then it's certainly not you, and you should prolly just stay quiet about it. I mean, I'm all for calling people on being jerks, but sometimes it really is best to swallow it and ignore her. However, if it *is* only you she singles out, then I'd definately recommend trying to have a nice little chat with her. Good luck!
However, if it *is* only you she singles out, then I'd definately recommend trying to have a nice little chat with her. Good luck!
:nod: Good luck Mo, these things really suck.
SwissSmiss
10-25-2001, 04:44 PM
oh mo... i dont know if it is cause i just woke up or what, but i have no idea what you are talking about. and i want to help and put in my two cents. so when/if you feel like typing out some details go right ahead. :hug:
I don't know if this relates to the fact that she seemed argumentive when I said that I don't agree homosexuality can be changed (she is part of that religion) during the discussion we had in July or Aug about it, but I don't think she likes me.
I started training her by default in July (long story, but technically not my job) but I DO NOT KNOW everything since I'm not in charge.
Examples- I closed the office doors one day b/c I wanted to keep the heat in and she was annoyed b/c they were locked (accidentally!, I let her in immediately but she was throwing her arms up in annoyance. Then the next minute she picked up her phone and was trying to help someone- she asked me for a phone number and I directed her where to find it. I did not realize she did not know where to locate a particular application with that number on it until she told the person on the phone, "I have to call you back after I get that number from my supervisor,,,blah blah" and stormed out after saying sarcastically, "Thanks for your help"
Another day, she was on the phone annoyed about something, I put a post-it on her desk with info that my supervisor told me to tell her (I didn't want to forget so I posted it) She flung it aside in a nasty manner as she was chatting on the phone. When she got off, she said, "What is this do for me? Poverty level is $8,350. What do I do with this?" I replied that I wasn't sure, it was in reference to whatever she was discussing with my supervisor and since she was on the phone, I put it there. She left the room in a huff.
Today she said, "Do you NOT want me to ask you about this (procedure), b/c that is the second time you asked me if I received the e-mail!"( the email listed the procedure steps) - I thought, No, actually, I just forgot I asked the first time, and the email was directed to all of us, I'm just hearing the same news as you, I'm no expert.
I went to her later with new info I learned, and she was obviously annoyed with that look on her face and stated, " Thanks for the info," in an agitated manner.
I feel mad at myself for feeling as though I'm the bad guy here, analyzing this too much. But I gather she's angry at something or somebody
:confused:
SwissSmiss
10-25-2001, 07:55 PM
she's a flake! she sounds like she doesnt bother to learn how to properly do something or take the time to keep track of her information. um, i could only suggest discussing these types of issues with her supervisor and see what can be done from there. perhaps surpervisor doesnt realize what a moron she is.
can i have a box of chocolates now? :D
Sometimes I need your perspective to make me realize I'm sweating over nothing. Thanks :loser:
Chocolate sounds good now
spidergoolash
10-26-2001, 08:44 AM
sometimes what i do is treat the bothersome person exactly the same way they are treating me. this seems to irk them.
other times i completely ignore them (if possible). this person obviously enjoys making you feel uncomfortable. just throw it back at her.
and good luck. i've been in these situations before. it ain't fun :(
mthrlangl
10-26-2001, 09:32 AM
Or you could kill her with kindness. That generally freaks people out. :fork:
Originally posted by mthrlangl
Or you could kill her with kindness. That generally freaks people out. :fork:
Or you could Just Kill Her :devil: :lol: